The wintery weather of the past couple of months has offered extended opportunity for settling in with a good book. One of my latest finds was Zen Golf—Mastering the Mental Game by Dr. Joseph Parent. A 30-year PGA Tour instructor who holds a Ph.D. in psychology, Dr. Parent integrates Buddhist philosophy, psychology, and golf knowledge in the art of living fearlessly in life and golf. He describes ZEN as action with awareness and being totally in the moment free from fear and doubt.
Being totally in the moment in today’s world is difficult. We live in a world that encourages hurrying and scurrying from one task to another; all the while communicating as we go via texting, cell phoning, and tweeting. In fact, slowing down and taking time to merely reflect on our thoughts, our relationships with self, others, and our higher being is a rarity. Colleen Carroll Campbell noted in a recent column that in a study of iPhone users, “people spend nearly half their waking hours thinking about something other than what they are doing, and such divided attention dampens spirits.”
For these individuals, living in the moment could be seen as living in several moments simultaneously without the benefit of feeling calm, alert, and emotionally serene. And yet, it is quite possible, through the practice of daily meditation, to train the mind to be highly aware and attending to the moment at hand.
How many of us have had the experience of doing something purposeful without forethought of failure? Yet, if you talk to performers, athletes, educators, writers, or anyone who is out there being the best they can be, you will hear them speak of “being in the zone”; of enjoying with clarity and focus an uninhibited flow of being. Oh, how delicious that is! Is there a way to experience this flow more often than not? There is.
Through the practice of daily meditation a person can come to know an inner respite from the busyness and stresses of everyday living.
Now that word—meditation—throws a lot of people from the get-go. What is meditation? How do I do it? It sounds so new age. The word meditate comes from the Latin word meditari which means to concentrate. One way to concentrate is to be mindful. Jon Kabat-Zinn, founder of the Stress Reduction Clinic at University of Massachusetts Medical School, defines mindfulness as moment-to-moment, non-judgmental awareness. Such mindfulness is a product of meditation and with practice can be developed by anyone.
The easiest way is to sit on a chair with your spine straight, arms and hands resting on the thighs, feet flat on the floor, and eyes staring straight ahead or closed. Then, simply breathe. Breathe in through the nostrils, breathe out through the mouth. Breathe in, breathe out. I count as I go since I find this enhances concentration and reduces thought interference. And believe me, thoughts are constantly intruding. Without realizing it, you will find yourself tripping along with Busy Mind on some path or other. But here is the cool part. You merely label the thoughts, without judgment of them or you, as “thinking” and return to breathing in and out. Taking as little as ten minutes a day morning and evening to sit and breathe leads to being able to quiet the mind and in turn being mindful in the moment. By being able, at will, to quiet and relax Busy Mind, you can be totally in the moment and attending to the task at hand—whether it be writing this article, or planning and executing the next golf shot.
Initially this daily practice seems so nothing, so un-enlightening. But, a funny thing happens while sitting on the way to nothing. Sakyong Mipham, a contributor to the magazine Shambhala Sun, explained it this way:
With consistent daily practice, we calm the waves of our mind at a
deep level. Then when a tsunami of emotion arises during the day, we can
do what I call “situational contemplation”—looking at the arising emotion
and slowly unraveling it, rather than throwing a tantrum or having another
drink. Having learned to engage in mindfulness, we no longer struggle
against the world so much. We can accomplish our activity fluidly, with
ease.
Now in trying to live fearlessly in life and golf, we can all relate to those “tsunamis of emotion” that bubble up and flare out at whomever or whatever happens to be in the way. These are what inhibit Zen—action with awareness free from fear and doubt. The beauty of meditative practice is a mind that can be more than the emotions of the moment; a mind that can transcend fear and enter the flow. Instead of fear immobilizing or forcing poor decision making, the mind can choose to step back, look at the big picture, and focus on the task at hand. Welcome to Zen golf and Zen living.